Monday was Boyfriend Appreciation Day, did you celebrate? Well even if you didn’t or you celebrate Girlfriend Appreciation Day (Aug. 1st) we’re sharing some very handy tips that every romantic partner of a pole dancer should know. Send all your potential partners this list of 10 Awesome Tips to Date a Pole Dancer.
… and maybe later on in the relationship you can send them this one: 10 Reasons Pole Dancers Aren’t As Sexy As Their Partners Expected.
1. Learn How to Give Massages
Start practicing now, because if you want to not only date a pole dancer but keep a pole dancer you’ve got to learn to give a good massage. And don’t for a second think we want a soft, soothing massage! No, we want intense, scream-out-loud, eyes-watering massage that works out the MANY knots we get pole dancing.
2. Learn their Stripper Shoe Preferences
The fastest way to a man’s heart might be through his stomach, bu the fastest way to a pole dancer’s is through their feet! Learn your poler’s shoe size and stripper heel brand preference quick. Stripper heels are your go-to present for birthdays, holidays, and when you messed up. Just remember there is no such thing as too many heels for a pole dancer!
3. Know that Your Schedule is Now Filled
Just accept it now, your schedule will not be your own if you want to date a pole dancer. Your weekends are about to be filled with competitions, performances, rehearsals, assisting with costume and prop creation, music selection sessions, driving to and from events, and the list goes on.
4. You ARE the Stretching Partner
Have you made it to the stretching level of a pole dancer/ regular relationship? If so, congrats, you’ve hit a milestone! That means your pole dancer trusts you enough to assist with the all important stretching portion of her practice. And just like massages, polers don’t like cute little fluffy stretch sessions, they want intensity and they want results. Prepare for your poler’s moans, groans, and yells, because it’s going to get ugly before it gets flexy.
5. Master the Art of Being Around Polers Without Looking Like a Creep
If you are dating a pole dancer, you WILL be surrounded by tons of other sexy pole dancers. There are perfectly awesome times to stare, like when they are performing. Then there are times when you will just look like a big ‘ol creep if you do. Learn the difference. Tip: if you are walking into a studio or a pole dancer specific area (i.e. backstage) and the polers don’t yet know who you are, make it clear you are the partner of *insert poler partner name here.* You will be surprised how many creeps we have to deal with so you want to make sure they know you aren’t one of them.
6. Accept the Glitter
It is easier than fighting it. Glitter will be a constant in your relationship, learn to love it.
7. Know Where the Cash is Going
Pole dance classes, pole clothes, pole shoes, pole competitions, pole workshops, pole photoshops… that is where your poler’s money is going. All of our extra spending money goes to pole so if you are hoping to save up for a trip the destination better have pole studio.
8. Prepare to Share your Relationship with an Object
The object, of course, being a metal pole. You better not be clingy in relationships because your pole dancer partner has a full schedule of classes and planning date night is going to be tricky. That’s why #3 on the list is so important, your only nights out are at pole events.
9. Leave Your Judgments at the Door
You can be as open minded as they come but most people have some internalized judgment towards strippers and therefore pole dancers. Even if it isn’t there for you, it might be for your friends and family. Your job as a partner of a pole dancer is to support the poler and either educate your friends and family or tell them to back off. Recognize what prejudices you might have and correct them.
10. And Your Jealousy Too
Your pole dancing partner will be half naked, they will be dancing in front of others, and possibly grinding up on another poler. For pole dancers, it doesn’t mean anything other than a super fun pole performance, but for a non-poler, if can feel like their partner is inching closer to infidelity. You are wrong. Pole dancers are just more comfortable with our bodies and nudity/sexy dancing/etc doesn’t mean anything more than wanting to rock a great pole routine.
What dating tips do you want potential partners of pole dancers to know? Share below!
Jillian is an avid pole dance student and instructor, accessories and costume designer, rhinestone aficionado, and a PDBloggers Executive Committee Member. She also writes at PoleGeekBlog.com
I’ve been wanting to be a dancer for a while but how do I bring it up to my boyfriend? And my family will disown me